Imagine the look on a child’s face when they look up at you with big eyes and ask, “Who’s picking me up today?” Sadly, divorce happens and it can get ugly. Parents bicker back and forth and stick their child or children in the middle; they’re the ones who suffer. And so do the daycare workers.
I can’t tell you how many times I had no idea how to answer a child. How am I supposed to know who’s picking up a child when both mom and dad and grandparents are authorized to ‘sign out’ their children/grandchildren? I’m not a mind reader.
What’s a day care worker to do?
Day care workers are often stuck in the middle of parents and grandparents who don’t get along. I remember a grandma signing out her grandchild. Lo and behold, mom came to pick up her child and was not thrilled to learn that grandma had already got her precious darling. I mean. How was I supposed to know the child’s mom was fighting with her mom aka grandma? Do you see how this spins out-of-control? I’ll never forget this because I had heart palpitations all night long!
Is it a sad time a child is living in?
It’s too bad that children that spend more time in daycare than they do at home. And we wonder why, at least in the U.S., children are cranky and unruly. They need love, nurturing, guidance, and attention. All of which should come from mom and dad. After all, you made the decision to procreate. If you didn’t think having children wasn’t a major responsibility, you got one big heck of a surprise. Don’t think it ends when you little ones turn 18. Today, parents continue to parent well into adulthood! This is sad but true.
Having children can be a rewarding experiencing if you truly want to become a parent. Remember, children aren’t accessories like purses, belts, earrings, bracelets, brooches, handkerchiefs, and scarves. Before I close, I’d like to leave you with a tip:
Sit down and think about ‘why’ you want to have children.
Toss out your mother and father’s opinions, what society says about having kids, and listen to your heart. You may be surprised by it tells you.
Until next time… Please be kind to your daycare workers. A “thank you” goes a long way.
—D. B. Chandler, Former daycare worker with a lot of tales to tell about working in a daycare.